Adventures of Frangipan

Tuesday, 17 February 2015

Burdens

It's been a hard morning. I had a message which set me off in a bad mood and on a bit of a rant about Dad and the mess he left me with. Because why be angry with situations that can actually be changed, when you can be angry with someone who's dead?!

Oh, and it's his 60th birthday, or would have been. So, angry with him for leaving this shit behind. Upset because it's his birthday and a reminder he's not here. And guilty because I'm angry with him on his birthday, and he's not here.

The days when things go right are great, or fine at least. But today I was thinking about all the things that go wrong, and I was so angry with him for leaving jobs undone or half done. So I come along with less experience and less knowledge, and have to learn how to deal with this stuff, as well as trying to deal with the estate, earn a living, and have a life.

I just wish he'd left it all a bit tidier. But he never was a tidy person. And neither am I, so maybe I'll do the same?!

There are things that need to be done, and I am making some headway slowly. I've had help from people with various things, but I refrain from asking for too much help because I don't want to be a burden. I'm quite happy to pay for help, so I'm finally getting round to having some fences built. I'm just so fed up of a tractor that doesn't work properly (that he deliberately wanted that way!), a half-done water supply, and a 'tenant' I don't like. And why couldn't he just get his arse into gear and get a proper shed built? Instead I have the remains of a mobile field shelter that blew over the hedge in high winds, so it's just added to the general mess.

I feel so alone in this. No matter how many people are willing to help or do help, I am alone. I will always try to be strong and to not be a burden, so I will only let people help with a certain amount. And as much as I might be angry with him at times, no one else is allowed to be. That hurts in a different way, and is likely to make me bottle up even more.

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I've been very aware of my blogger's block lately and thinking about why I wasn't writing anything. This isn't really the tone/subject I was hoping to start up with, but hopefully the block is gone.

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